It’s more profitable to give than to receive.
Sounds weird, right? How can ‘giving’ yield more returns than actually receiving?
It’s more profitable to give than to receive.
Sounds weird, right?
How can ‘giving’ yield more returns than actually receiving?
Firstly, I’d like to shed some light into the concept of giving. Giving is not just the act of offering something of value to others, it involves the mindset behind the act.
People who give don’t think too hard on the act of giving, they just give.
Like any skill, giving can become habitual if we learn to understand its importance and practice the act of giving consistently.
Why it’s important to give
Have you noticed that to find fulfilment in anything we do as humans involves giving?
Do you have a job? Then you’d realise that you’re offering your skills and time to your employer and the business’ customers.
Are you in school? Then you’d learn that you’d have to give your time, attention to your friends, classmates and even your teachers.
Are you married? Then you realise that you give your time, skills, love, patience, finance etc to your partner. This is why it’s advised to have a mind of a giver before you even get married.
There is no role that we play in life that doesn’t involve some sort of giving.
Therefore everyone gives.
But not everyone is a giver.
What’s the difference?
Someone who simply gives might be compelled to give because of the rewards of giving. For instance, an employee at work offers his skills and time just because of the salary at the end of the month.
Whereas a giver is someone who looks for the opportunity to offer value where needed. For example, an employee at work offers his skills in other departments irrespective of the extra compensation.
Sadly, some people still struggle to give their time, money, love etc to others without a compelling reason to do so.
Here are 5 reasons why people struggle to give:
1. Resources will run out
Have you ever worried that if you give your time, energy, money, etc, you won’t have anything left for you?
If this is you, the truth is your concern would be valid. You can give all you have and in turn suffer the consequence of giving without wisdom.
What do I mean?
Giving is purely about the attitude than the act itself. Once you develop the heart of a giver, you will understand that you will never run out of the “will to give”.
Sometimes you may not have the resource to give, however, the will to give would enable you find a way to help the person in need.
2. Being unappreciated
It’s often the biggest nightmare of people who want to give their best. They feel they won’t be appreciated for the time, energy, money, love etc that they give.
This is understandable.
However, you should remind yourself in such scenarios what the motive behind your giving was.
If you give your time with the intention of a praise, then it’s likely you would be let down by others. But if you give your time to listen to a friend simply because you want to be a friend to them, then you won’t be looking for appreciation.
Why? Because your purpose was to be a good listener, and you achieved it. A giver wants to make an impact, not receive an accolade.
3. What good will it do
You can stop yourself from giving because you feel it’s not good enough. I know I have been there before where I held back from giving because I felt it wasn’t good enough.
The truth is, giving has less to do with the quantity or vastness of the act, but rather the intention and quality of act.
When you give, try to avoid the pitfalls of predicting the impact of your gift. Focus on the reason why you’re giving and the outcome of your gift.
For instance, giving a few British pounds to a homeless person will not take him off the streets immediately but will get him the food and strength he needs for that day.
4. What reward awaits you
If you give expecting something back in return from the person or organisation, then be prepared to be disappointed.
For instance, if you work extra hours at your workplace, don’t expect to get a bonus because of your dedication and commitment to giving your best.
Instead, be content with the reward you already receive (salary etc) and continue giving your best when you can. In time, your hard work will be noticed and you will be rewarded for it.
The key is to avoid expecting a reward because you won’t know when it will arrive at your door. Simply do your best and be happy with what you already have.
5. Being used
No one likes being deceived and manipulated by others when they give. It’s also a big fear of people who would like to become givers.
For instance, imaging giving some money to a friend who needed to pay his rent, but a few hours later you found him in the store buying an expensive pair of shoes, probably with the money you gave him.
The truth is you can’t avoid such scenarios completely. However, you can seek to understand people and learn what to give and when to give.
For example, using the scenario above, you’d need to evaluate the friendship you have and know if your friend is worth trusting depending on the amount of money requested. If you were asked to give £20 and you had over £2000 in your disposal, then you it’s safe to say, you can give your friend without having to reflect because you have the money to spare.
This can also be likened to relationships. You shouldn’t give your time and love to someone who hasn’t earned your trust.
It’s great to be a giver. But like all things, there is a balance needed to live happily as a cheerful giver.
And sometimes that balance is learned through experience or mentoring.
These are the 5 reasons why people struggle to give cheerfully. Can you think of one more?
I believe in the power of giving, and how the popular saying goes:
Givers never lack
Lackers hardly give.