Have you stopped for a second to take an inventory of your daily habits?
It’s really important to understand the power habits can have over your life. You hear people say “That’s just how I am”, or worse “Why can’t people love me for me?”
The truth I believe is we don’t take that the time to look at the habits we are forming or have formed. This happens from a very young age, where parents need to watch out for the traits and habits that their kids form.
You don’t want to correct a child once the act or way of thinking becomes a habit. It’s certainly more difficult to encourage a change when someone begins to act out because that’s what they are used to doing.
A habit by itself isn’t bad in nature. It only leads to destruction when we use it for our own evil agendas. I love this riddle that is often used by coaches:
I am your constant companion.
I am your greatest helper or heaviest burden.
I push you onward, or drag you down to failure
I am completely at your command.
Half the things you do might as well be turned over to me.
I will do them quickly and correctly.
I am easily managed.
You must be firm with me.
Show me what you want to be done, and after a few lessons, I will do it automatically.
I am the servant of all great people.
The burden of all failures as well.
Those who are great, I have made great.
Those who are failures, I have made a failure.
I am not a machine, though I work with the precision of a machine and the intelligence of a person.
Run me for profit or run me for ruin.
Take me, train me, be firm with me, and I will place the world at your feet.
Be easy with me, and I will destroy you.
Who am I?
The answer is… I am a Habit.
Having a habit can lead you to getting the job you want, or building the relationship you want. And at the same time, having a habit can lead you to bankruptcy in business or get you divorced if you’re not careful.
To understand more about Habits, I would like to divide habits into two major types:
- Mental Habits
- Physical Habits
These are thoughts and principles we allow invade our mind and constantly keep coming back to infect our actions. This is by far the most difficult type of habit to gain or to get rid of.
If you suffer from lack of money I.e poverty, it is a difficult (but possible) challenge to overcome due to the Habits that have been ingrained in your mind. Sometimes, people tell themselves that they won’t be successful in life because no one in their families has achieved a distinctive measure of success l. Some even go as far as saying they won’t make it because society is rooting for them to fail.
It’s really important to identify bad mental habits and be intentional in weeding them out of your mind.
These are habits that we act out at first due to a number of factors like peer pressure, lack of knowledge, wrong counsel etc. We don’t spend much time thinking about it but we just find ourselves doing it repeatedly.
Whilst there is probably a rooted reason in the subconscious, this type of habit often can be seen in the actions of the individual.
For instance, if you wake up every morning from bed and the first thing you do is check your Facebook account, then you have built a bad physical habit.
If you wake up every morning and brush your teeth before leaving the house, then you have formed a good physical habit.
This type of habit is easier to gain or stop than the previous one. Because it’s tangible. You can see it. You can stop it. For instance, every morning you can decide to place your phone at the other end of your room, and learn a new habit that would be good for you.
If you pay close attention, you’d realise that addiction arises when these two habits are embed in the person. If they try to stop the mental one, they find themselves still carrying out the physical one. If they stop the physical one, they realise that they can hardly stop thinking a certain way.
It’s a tough one. But there is a way out…
In my upcoming post, I’ll share an insight into the Habit Loop and how you can change your habits.